Post by Dave on Nov 23, 2010 16:20:16 GMT
I was listening with interest to the debate on today’s J.Vine show, about the lottery winner who has had to give is ex-wife who left him for another man ten years ago, two million pounds.
While he won seventy five million and is hardly going to miss Two million of it, the question for me is when a marriage ends and everything is finalised, should any ex partner, male of female be able to come back and make further claims on the other partner.
My understanding is he righty wanted to set up a two million trust fund for the child they had, but she wanted to have full control of the money herself. What never came out in the debate was why she left him for another man and she may well have good reasons, but the way I see things is, if you want to end something and move on, then you do just that.
Lets say you got divorced ten years ago and was remarried, you then learn your ex-wife has won ten million on the lottery, would you feel you somehow have a claim on some of her winnings?
I know I would feel I was not entitled to anything simply because we were no longer together and choose to go separate ways. Part of your vows may well have said for richer or poorer, but surely that only applied as long as your were married?
I have a friend who now works in a very low paid job; he was once married to a very beautiful girl, only she went and left him for the boss where she works. She now drives around in an open topped Mercedes, while he drives a beat up Golf. Should he be able to go to court and ask if he could have some of her new found wealth?
Maybe it’s just me, but I struggle to understand how anyone can be still responsible for someone they were once married too, yes its right if the man leaves he ensures his ex-wife is in someway provided for until she can rebuild her life, but should that be forever?
These days a mans pension is taking into consideration in divorce proceedings and I’m not sure if I fully agree with that. As far as I see it, two people came together and built a life together, it did not work out and so they spilt everything up fairly and went their separate ways.
I fully believe in marriage, but can understand why these days it might not look such an attractive proposition and only because it looks to me when its ended it really may well not be.
While he won seventy five million and is hardly going to miss Two million of it, the question for me is when a marriage ends and everything is finalised, should any ex partner, male of female be able to come back and make further claims on the other partner.
My understanding is he righty wanted to set up a two million trust fund for the child they had, but she wanted to have full control of the money herself. What never came out in the debate was why she left him for another man and she may well have good reasons, but the way I see things is, if you want to end something and move on, then you do just that.
Lets say you got divorced ten years ago and was remarried, you then learn your ex-wife has won ten million on the lottery, would you feel you somehow have a claim on some of her winnings?
I know I would feel I was not entitled to anything simply because we were no longer together and choose to go separate ways. Part of your vows may well have said for richer or poorer, but surely that only applied as long as your were married?
I have a friend who now works in a very low paid job; he was once married to a very beautiful girl, only she went and left him for the boss where she works. She now drives around in an open topped Mercedes, while he drives a beat up Golf. Should he be able to go to court and ask if he could have some of her new found wealth?
Maybe it’s just me, but I struggle to understand how anyone can be still responsible for someone they were once married too, yes its right if the man leaves he ensures his ex-wife is in someway provided for until she can rebuild her life, but should that be forever?
These days a mans pension is taking into consideration in divorce proceedings and I’m not sure if I fully agree with that. As far as I see it, two people came together and built a life together, it did not work out and so they spilt everything up fairly and went their separate ways.
I fully believe in marriage, but can understand why these days it might not look such an attractive proposition and only because it looks to me when its ended it really may well not be.
