Post by Dave on Oct 27, 2010 20:09:27 GMT
What has happened to the world we live in and why have people changed so much from how they once were? I’m feeling at this time very sorry for Ant and at the same time very angry toward the person who drove into his parked BMW Z3 yesterday causing a lot of damage to one rear wing that’s probably going to have to be replaced putting Ant greatly our of pocket and all because the said person just drove off
Ant has just got back into full time work and is hardly in a position to find the money for his insurance access he is now going to have to pay to get his car repaired and I bet he wonders why I drummed it into him while he was growing up the need to always accept responsibility for what you do, when others in this world don’t.
Ant has never ever got into any sort of trouble and he has always known that if he did he had to put his hand up and take what ever the punishment was and while he knew I would always stand by his side he also knew dam well I would never cover for him or try to get him off.
I had to laugh at my boss the other day when he was rightly angry when not for the first time he discovered the outside of our new unit had been hit by a vehicle and as the outside is painted steel sheeting panels the result has been they now have big dents in them. “Just drove off and never said a word” he said to me and then I asked him if he had done the same thing to a building like ours would he have just drove off.
He said probably and so I told him that in the case he can’t complain when others do the same thing he would have done and I added that I hoped it might be a lesson to him and in future he did the right thing in the hope others would then do so as well.
It is hard to always do the right thing when others all around you don’t and you can end up wondering if you are really the stupid one as after all they get away with everything Scott free and never have any cost to pay for their wrong doing.
I suppose a lot will depend of the sort of conscience you have and if you are the sort who can still live with yourself when you have done something wrong and not done the right thing and put it right and faced the music as they say.
But its not just about the damage that might be caused and the stress and expense others incur because someone would not face up to their reasonability’s to such things as Ants car because the very same sort of people can also damage fellow human beings not only by their actions but by what comes out of their mouth and not seem to care or feel they have done anything wrong at all.
Yes when they see the upset they have caused they will come out with such things as “I didn’t really mean it” or I was only joking” do they say those things to try and make them feel better about themselves or just to try and hide the side of them that really took pleasure in seeing someone else hurt and at the same time feel somehow in a strange way proud because they had the power to do it.
There are times in all our lives when he have no choice other than hurt someone and having to end a relationship is a perfect example, but most of us would try and do it as gently as possible to try and reduce the pain for the person we are hurting. It may be the case we have to be honest with someone and that might then cause them pain, but we would be doing it because it was best they knew and never simply because we wanted to hurt them.
I have had the pleasure of meeting a good number of TFF members and due to what has been done to me in my life, I had to learn very quickly to form good accurate assessments of the type of people I meet for the first time, you know what I mean if you were a friend or a foe, someone who would love me or wish to cause me harm( I should make it clear I have no intension of proposing to any of you on here and especially that Aussie because he may just take my advances the wrong way, but I do intend to ask him out to the pictures one night so we can watch Love Story together in the hope he understands where that Chris Hayes was coming from
) and I know that most of you are really decent people and not the sort I would ever have to worry about.
The sort that if you did upset someone and never meant to, you would say sorry and try to put it right and not because you wanted to make yourself feel better but because you were sorry for the upset you caused even if you knew that was never your aim.
But what about those sorts who love upsetting others and get some sort of kick out of it? Why do they do it? Is it because they are really just shallow people and the only way they can feel good is to hurt others? Maybe it’s because their own lives are very sad and they are desperately unhappy and can’t stand others being happy and set out to make sure others feel the pain they are suffering.
Mind you it might be none of the above and nothing more than they are not very nice people and not the sort you want to mix with or have in your life. Sometimes you may not have a choice and have to wait for circumstances to change to rid your life of someone who is causing you pain
But rid them you will in the end as why should anyone have to suffer at the hands of anyone intent on causing hurt and upset and just maybe then when that person has no one else who will talk to them or have them in their life ever again, they may just realise all too late how wrong they were to treat others in such a terrible way.
Its funny that how things were when we were young can still repeat themselves when we are older, we all remember that nasty boy at school that ended up playing on his own as no other kids wanted to know him and play with him because of how he treated the other kids. I can still hear him know crying out “I didn’t mean it, I was only joking, and I was only playing” “ please let me play with you” words said far too late and anyway who is every going to believe any of it as he said it all so many times before.
Well here I am some 45 years later and not at school anymore but a member of a forum where I do have some great friends to play with and still find some naughty boys not to far away and just like back then at school if the naughty boy can’t play nicely and enjoy the joy that good and real friendship can bring, he may well find he has to go away and play on his own and that really would be a shame when with a little effort and thought, he could be our best friend as that is what we would rather him be.
Ant has just got back into full time work and is hardly in a position to find the money for his insurance access he is now going to have to pay to get his car repaired and I bet he wonders why I drummed it into him while he was growing up the need to always accept responsibility for what you do, when others in this world don’t.
Ant has never ever got into any sort of trouble and he has always known that if he did he had to put his hand up and take what ever the punishment was and while he knew I would always stand by his side he also knew dam well I would never cover for him or try to get him off.
I had to laugh at my boss the other day when he was rightly angry when not for the first time he discovered the outside of our new unit had been hit by a vehicle and as the outside is painted steel sheeting panels the result has been they now have big dents in them. “Just drove off and never said a word” he said to me and then I asked him if he had done the same thing to a building like ours would he have just drove off.
He said probably and so I told him that in the case he can’t complain when others do the same thing he would have done and I added that I hoped it might be a lesson to him and in future he did the right thing in the hope others would then do so as well.
It is hard to always do the right thing when others all around you don’t and you can end up wondering if you are really the stupid one as after all they get away with everything Scott free and never have any cost to pay for their wrong doing.
I suppose a lot will depend of the sort of conscience you have and if you are the sort who can still live with yourself when you have done something wrong and not done the right thing and put it right and faced the music as they say.
But its not just about the damage that might be caused and the stress and expense others incur because someone would not face up to their reasonability’s to such things as Ants car because the very same sort of people can also damage fellow human beings not only by their actions but by what comes out of their mouth and not seem to care or feel they have done anything wrong at all.
Yes when they see the upset they have caused they will come out with such things as “I didn’t really mean it” or I was only joking” do they say those things to try and make them feel better about themselves or just to try and hide the side of them that really took pleasure in seeing someone else hurt and at the same time feel somehow in a strange way proud because they had the power to do it.
There are times in all our lives when he have no choice other than hurt someone and having to end a relationship is a perfect example, but most of us would try and do it as gently as possible to try and reduce the pain for the person we are hurting. It may be the case we have to be honest with someone and that might then cause them pain, but we would be doing it because it was best they knew and never simply because we wanted to hurt them.
I have had the pleasure of meeting a good number of TFF members and due to what has been done to me in my life, I had to learn very quickly to form good accurate assessments of the type of people I meet for the first time, you know what I mean if you were a friend or a foe, someone who would love me or wish to cause me harm( I should make it clear I have no intension of proposing to any of you on here and especially that Aussie because he may just take my advances the wrong way, but I do intend to ask him out to the pictures one night so we can watch Love Story together in the hope he understands where that Chris Hayes was coming from
) and I know that most of you are really decent people and not the sort I would ever have to worry about.The sort that if you did upset someone and never meant to, you would say sorry and try to put it right and not because you wanted to make yourself feel better but because you were sorry for the upset you caused even if you knew that was never your aim.
But what about those sorts who love upsetting others and get some sort of kick out of it? Why do they do it? Is it because they are really just shallow people and the only way they can feel good is to hurt others? Maybe it’s because their own lives are very sad and they are desperately unhappy and can’t stand others being happy and set out to make sure others feel the pain they are suffering.
Mind you it might be none of the above and nothing more than they are not very nice people and not the sort you want to mix with or have in your life. Sometimes you may not have a choice and have to wait for circumstances to change to rid your life of someone who is causing you pain
But rid them you will in the end as why should anyone have to suffer at the hands of anyone intent on causing hurt and upset and just maybe then when that person has no one else who will talk to them or have them in their life ever again, they may just realise all too late how wrong they were to treat others in such a terrible way.
Its funny that how things were when we were young can still repeat themselves when we are older, we all remember that nasty boy at school that ended up playing on his own as no other kids wanted to know him and play with him because of how he treated the other kids. I can still hear him know crying out “I didn’t mean it, I was only joking, and I was only playing” “ please let me play with you” words said far too late and anyway who is every going to believe any of it as he said it all so many times before.
Well here I am some 45 years later and not at school anymore but a member of a forum where I do have some great friends to play with and still find some naughty boys not to far away and just like back then at school if the naughty boy can’t play nicely and enjoy the joy that good and real friendship can bring, he may well find he has to go away and play on his own and that really would be a shame when with a little effort and thought, he could be our best friend as that is what we would rather him be.